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  • Writer's pictureNoel Guerita Anschutz

Behind the Mask of Love: Cracking the Code of Neglectful Narcissists and the Enigma of Endurism

Updated: Aug 10, 2023

In the realm of relationships, individuals with narcissistic tendencies can exhibit destructive behavior patterns that deeply affect their partners. Neglectful narcissists are individuals who prioritize their own needs and desires while neglecting the emotional and psychological needs of their partners.

Endurism behavior, on the other hand, refers to the act of enduring or persisting in a relationship despite the negative and harmful behaviors displayed by the neglectful narcissist. In this article, we will explore the characteristics of neglectful narcissists, the reasons behind endurism behavior, and the potential consequences for both parties involved.

Understanding Neglectful Narcissists

Neglectful narcissists possess traits of narcissistic personality disorder, a condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. They may appear charming and charismatic initially, but over time, their self-centered behavior becomes evident. Key traits of neglectful narcissists include:

a) Grandiosity: They have an exaggerated sense of self-worth and believe they are special and deserving of admiration.

b) Lack of Empathy: Neglectful narcissists struggle to understand or relate to the emotions and needs of their partners.

c) Manipulative: They use emotional manipulation to control and maintain power in the relationship.

d) Disregard for Boundaries: Neglectful narcissists often overstep boundaries and disregard their partner's autonomy.

e) Sense of Entitlement: They believe they deserve special treatment and expect their partners to cater to their needs.

Endurism Behavior in Relationships

Endurism behavior refers to the tendency of some individuals to persist in a relationship with a neglectful narcissist despite experiencing emotional pain, dissatisfaction, and even abuse. Several factors contribute to this endurance:

a) Idealization Phase: In the beginning, the relationship may have been idealized, and the partner might hope for a return to the initial positive phase.

b) Fear of Abandonment: The partner may fear being alone or may believe they can change the narcissist's behavior.

c) Trauma Bonding: The cycle of intermittent reinforcement, where the narcissist shows occasional affection, creates a strong emotional bond with their partner.

d) Low Self-Esteem: The partner's self-esteem might be eroded over time, leading them to believe they deserve mistreatment.

e) External Pressure: Societal or cultural factors, financial dependence, or family pressures can discourage leaving the relationship.

The Consequences of Endurism

Endurism behavior can have severe consequences for both the individual enduring the relationship and the narcissistic partner:

a) Emotional and Psychological Impact: The enduring partner may experience anxiety, depression, and a sense of worthlessness due to emotional abuse.

b) Reinforcement of Narcissistic Behavior: The neglectful narcissist's behavior is often reinforced when their partner continues to tolerate their mistreatment.

c) Stagnation of Personal Growth: The enduring partner may struggle to grow and flourish due to the toxic dynamics of the relationship.

d) Escalation of Abuse: In some cases, neglectful narcissists may escalate their abusive behavior when their partner remains in the relationship.


Understanding the dynamics of neglectful narcissists and the concept of endurism behavior is crucial to breaking free from harmful relationships. If you find yourself in a relationship with a neglectful narcissist, seeking professional support such as therapy and counseling can help you navigate the challenges and work towards healing and personal growth. Remember, no one deserves to endure emotional abuse, and recognizing your own worth is the first step towards a healthier and more fulfilling life.

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A very true, concise article. Thank you.

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